That got me to thinking. Next to becoming a warrior for Christ, isn’t that what we should strive for in raising our sons? I look around at the world we live in, and I see boys playing their video games in public. I see young men walking aimlessly with their cell phones, texting away. I hear boys disrespecting their parents at sports games, some don’t even want to play. Their drive, their competitiveness is not there.
Will these sons have what it takes to provide? Statistically, the majority of them will not “grow up” until later in life or maybe never. Then what? Who would want to marry someone who has put off wanting to settle down and provide for a family of their own because of their own selfish desires?
Here at the Shock farm, there is quite a lot of work to do! But, wherever you are, teach your boy(s) how to work. I cannot stress the importance of this simple strategy. Work.
I am amazed at the difference in boys who share the load at home, and those that do nothing. The latter feel like they are owed something. But, boys with good work ethic know that if they do not get a job done or do it incorrectly, there will be consequences.
Biblically, if the man does not provide for his family, there are huge consequences! Shouldn’t we be teaching the importance of this to our young ones? This doesn’t mean that we slave drive them with a whip in hand, but that we work along side them at first, and gradually give them more responsibility as they mature.
My twelve year old can take care of all of our animals on his own. Lately, he has been filling in for his Dad because of the work schedule. He is in charge when Dad’s not here, delegating work yet doing the bulk of it.
Here is a run down of what my children do as far as taking care of our many animals This does not include housework or other seemingly endless jobs around the farm:
-17 year old daughter feeds and waters the pigs, milks some of the does and takes care of two horses. She also helps out when the animals get sick.
-12 year old son feeds, waters and milks the does, takes care of 70+ chickens which includes feeding, watering, gathering the eggs and cleaning out nests.
-10 year old daughter feeds and waters the bucks and takes care of the other two horses.
-7 year old son feeds the five Great Pyrenees and sometimes the puppies.
-3 year old son tags along and helps.
-12 year old son does all of the above except feed the dogs.
-7 year old son feeds the dogs and helps his big brother if needed.
My sons are with their Dad when he is working on various projects around the farm. If my husband is outside working and comes in only to find his boys doing nothing, he will sternly tell them to get moving!
Is this child abuse? No way! I believe that continually allowing our boys to do nothing is abuse. Their potential manhood is squashed as they have no purpose but to serve their own selfish desires.
Hearing my son say that he feels like a man when he contributes to our needs means that he is on the right track. And as he grows into a young man, he will indeed be a man that provides!
Are you allowing your son(s) to carry his load?